Sue Revis' Blog
Whether you've recently purchased a new home or are in the process of doing so, one of the most satisfying aspects of becoming a homeowner is customizing your living space.
Half the fun of moving into a new home is "making it your own," which can include everything from painting the walls to remodeling the kitchen.
Although it may feel a little odd at first to move into what was recently "someone else's house," it won't take long before you and your family feel a sense of belonging and pride. In many cases, that feeling is instantaneous. While there are dozens of things you can do to create a feeling of coziness, comfort, and security, here are a few tips worth keeping in mind.
Empty those moving boxes. Once the moving crew leaves, the first thing many people do is take a deep sigh of relief and order a pizza -- and why not! If you have all your immediate essentials packed in separate, clearly labeled boxes, then there's no urgent need to set up your household right away. Relax, take in your new surroundings, and enjoy the accomplishment of purchasing and moving into a new home! Once you've taken that initial breather and acclimated yourself to your new living space, however, getting organized and unpacked is one of the next orders of business. If you leave stuff in boxes for more than a week or two, it may delay your feeling of being "settled in."
Add your own decorating touches. If your walls seem sterile, stark, or empty looking, two solutions immediately come to mind: Consider changing your paint color to a warmer shade and hang up some framed paintings or pictures that reflect your personality. In addition to wall art you already own, there are several websites and well-known retail outlets that can help you update and personalize your home décor. Over time, you can also check out local art exhibits, antique shows, and craft fairs.
Landscaping: Depending on the season and the climate in which you live, planting colorful flowers, bushes or ornamental trees can help beautify your property and make it feel like your own. Hedges and fencing can also enhance your sense of privacy and create a backyard retreat that's ideal for relaxing and entertaining.
Security matters: Regardless of how safe and secure your new neighborhood seems, it's always better to be safe than sorry! Since you don't know how many people may have been given keys to your house, such as housekeepers, contractors, neighbors, or friends of the previous owner, it makes sense to change the locks on your doors, as soon as possible. You may also want to do a security audit, which might include testing your window locks and trimming shrubbery that covers windows. Installing a couple motion detector lights in strategic places is another home security measure that can increase your peace of mind and make your new house feel more like a home.
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Many people define self-confidence as the feeling of trust in your own abilities and judgment. While that may be true, it doesn’t really describe the progressive continuum in developing confidence in yourself. That means, you may not be confident in one area, but gradually are becoming more confident as you go through the process of trying, failing, tweaking, trying again, succeeding a little bit, etc. Confidence in yourself is not a yes/no, on/off deal.
It’s a feeling
Some days you feel more confident, others you don’t even if you’ve felt confident in that area in the past. Many things can contribute to how you’re feeling about succeeding in one area. If you’re ill or under the weather, your confidence may ebb. If your skin broke out or your hair isn’t cooperating, that might dent your confidence. But, sometimes it’s just that you haven’t done something recently that you’ve done well at in the past. For most people, the challenge isn’t in trying something for the first time. It’s working it a second time and failing after they’ve already succeeded to some degree. They don’t want to not live up to themselves.
Talking down to yourself promotes this feeling. The only way around this is to step out and do it. Of course, if you fall flat on your face, you may not want to do it again, but really, failing gives you an opportunity to make adjustments and improvements.
Who’s in charge?
The challenge is that your feelings aren’t always controlled by you. Sometimes they’re controlled by your gut microbes. “What?” you say. Bugs? Well, yes, the bacterium that lives in your gut. The growing body of evidence says that the feel-good hormones in your body like serotonin and dopamine. That means if your gut flora is not healthy, you may feel less confident.If confidence eludes you even though you know you can do it, perhaps you should work on a gut-friendly diet.
When you over-train a muscle, it ends up sprained or strained and needs time to heal. When you over-train your psyche, you fill your mind with so much information that you overwhelm yourself. Don’t think you have to do it all or try it all at once. Instead, try things the way a baby does. A little at a time, a step up, a fallback—do that until you know you can take that second step. If you’re always a “no” person, try to say “yes” every third time. If you’re a “yes” person and therefore get taken advantage of, practice saying “no” until you can say it firmly.
If one of the things you’re not confident about is buying a home, don’t try to do it on your own. Utilize the expertise and experience of your professional real estate agent.
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